We all have these voices in our head. Maybe it was the girl we had a crush on in the 6th grade who called you a know-it-all, which made you never try to sound smart again. Maybe it was that girl at your high school that said "ew" when your friend asked if you could come with to a party, so you didn't want to tag along. Maybe it was your mother telling you to straighten your hair because curly looks unkept, so now you devote an extra 35 mins every morning straightening it, even though she probably forgot she ever said it in the first place.
These outer bullies crystallize into bullies within, and they keep us from taking risks, trying new things, and living our lives as authentically as possible. Then there are the people that we hang out with now, and their own projections of judgements and insecurities on us. This only serves as a big roadblock on what could be a much lighter smoother ride of life.
These people and voices don't deserve to be combatted or debated. They don't need to be proven wrong, they just need to be disregarded. If someone calls you ugly and it hurts, it's because there's a voice inside you that feels the same. We have to become aware of that voice and let them know, in no subtle way, that they're not speaking a truth.
“I believe in strong women. I believe in the woman who is able to stand up for herself. I believe in the woman who doesn’t need to hide behind her husband’s back. I believe that if you have problems, as a woman you deal with them, you don’t play victim, you don’t make yourself look pitiful, you don’t point fingers. You stand and you deal. You face the world with a head held high and you carry the universe in your heart.” – C. JoyBell C.