Oh the stories we tell ourselves, and the programming that takes over our beliefs. People who are single can range from being really lonely to really connected, joyful, and at peace. People who are in relationship can range from being lonely to really connected, joyful, and at peace. Wowzas. Would you look at that? We’ve been told so many times before that people who are in relationships are happier than singles. But it’s not so simple and straight forward.
Let’s break this down a bit. Yes, research *does* show us that people who are truly happy in their relationships report happier and healthier lives than people who are happy and content with being single, but happy and content singles take the win when they’re up against people who are in relationships that are unhappy and dysfunctional (which...is a pretty high percentage). It’s not wrong to emphasize the value of healthy relationships, it’s just damaging to emphasize being in ANY relationship as the goal. And unfortunately, so much of our messaging and programming supports that. The fact that we don’t generally learn how to have healthy relationships as we’re growing up, the age constraints many women are constantly reminded of, the fears around youthfulness being lost, are all things that can easily walk all of us down the aisle to this programmed (false) victory and celebration we attach to being in a relationship.
Being in healthy relationships is the win. Being connected, supported, knowing you’re loved and cared for (and doing the same in return), trusting that your experience is as important as you’re partner’s (and vice versa), being able to share your inner most truths...these things improve our lives. Plain and simple.
So here’s the message. Being single and happy is pretty damn amazing. It’s a beautiful space to exist in. Wanting a relationship to just want a relationship and to avoid the story that there’s something wrong with you because you’re single is total bullshit. Wanting a relationship because you see the value in partnership and the beautiful things that can come along with that is incredible. Healthy relationships will change your world. Commit to that. Do THAT work. #mindfulmft ...
On Tuesday’s we do our best to walk away from toxic situations. ...
Tomorrow @prestonsmiles and I go LIVE on @goal.cast talking about all things RELATIONSHIPS. And I want to say ☝🏽 ONE THING...
Don’t believe the HYPE. 👉🏽 #RelationshipGoals needs some clarification. 👇🏽
If you’re one of the many people looking for your person, and have those #RelationshipGoals images in your brain or on your vision board of the “perfect” couple that you follow online--it’s time to shed a little reality on what it really means to want #RelationshipGoals :
Relationship Goal #1 : Both partners are ready to do the raw and oh-so-humbling work around their deepest wounds. Nothing brings them up like a relationship!
Relationship Goal #2 : Both partners are willing to side-step their pride and their egos, in order to let their guard down and TRULY let someone in--especially when things get tough.
Relationship Goal #3 : Both partners are excited about a life of challenge and growth throughout their “seasons” together--knowing that evolution and change are inevitable, and the art of CHOOSING each other becomes a consistent practice that takes WORK.
These are just a selection of the many realities of what it takes to HOLD deep, sustainable love. It’s less glorious than what the movies will show us, or the love songs will sing about; and yet at the same time it’s one of the most fulfilling and expansive things you can ever do.
So it’s time to get REAL about REAL LOVE---so that we can all start doing the work to actually sustain it.
Join us LIVE tomorrow, Wed July 17th @9am PST on @goal.cast 's Facebook page (Link in bio) -- We are going to get REAL! 🔥🔥🔥
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Me hace muy feliz que estén activos esperando mi nuevo Single ”YO PAGO”, 🚀 a 1 día pa’ estrenarlo 🚀 Quiero aprovechar para agradecer a todos los que han hecho posible llegar a este punto🙌🏻, al todo poderoso que me respalda 🙏🏻 a mi familia, amigos y seguidores ❤️ A mi equipo; el #TeamTueska , todos los que han creído y trabajado con el corazón en este proyecto. @sonopete ⚙️🛠🎼🎹 por producirme, entender mi esencia, copiarme las ideas, tener paciencia y crear, encontrar el sonido, por hacer música conmigo💿💣💥, @itzzaprimera por compartir tu talento con nosotros y escribir como la mejor ✍🏻 que privilegio ⚡️ @luisbarrerajr por la mejor mezcla del mundo y la buena onda✌🏻🎧, al vecino @redtraxxmastering por el súper master 🔊 @criteria_recording_studios la experiencia no habría sido igual en otro estudio, un viaje único. Te hacen sentir como una súper estrella 🌟 @pedrovazquezfilms @2wolvesfilms no pude haber elegido mejor, tu y tu equipo, son maravillosos, artistas y apasionados por lo que hacen, amo el video🎥 🔥💣💥 ya verán que belleza🤤. @yaelduval y su equipo, mis fotos favoritas. 📸 las más lindas, la cámara que más me ama.
A todos los que me han dado de su luz 💡 para que vaya haciendo mi camino, un buen camino. Gracias por darlo todo y un poco más para que esto sea una realidad. Gratitud infinita, en esta vida y la próxima. Mañana estará disponible, así que DISFRÚTENLO, #YoPago es para ustedesy la primera de muchas ❤️ #NewRelease#Single#MusicVideo#YoPagoTueska 🎶 #Tueska#Tueska2019#MeSubeMeSube ...