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In what often feels like a hyper fast-paced world where posts and stories pop up on social channels and then disappear replaced by something “new” there’s (for me) a sense sometimes that it’s not kosher to repeat oneself. But, it’s the very repetition of themes and ideas that allows us to determine what’s true for us, what can be tossed aside, and what needs furthering. A lot of the subject matter that I write about on here is legitimately intense stuff and takes us years to fully work through and unravel, so I’m going to re-touch on a lot of stuff and repeat, repeat, repeat because even when something becomes conscious for us, it takes time to completely comprehend something from different angles. ⠀
Here’s one for me: ⠀
Fully recognizing just how prevalent the “all or nothing” mentality has been in my life, and how it may be for others, too. It’s the whole, “if I can’t guarantee that I will get an A+ on this test, I’m not even going to try in case I get a B or C” and, “if I can’t pay off all my debt or student line or whatever now, what’s a payment of $____ going to do?”. It’s total sobriety or returning to out of control drinking. It’s procrastination - “there is so much to do and I am so overwhelmed that I’ll just keep putting it off and putting it off.” It’s not spending the 20 minutes that you currently have available tidying the house because you think you need to spend an hour getting the job done, so nothing gets done at all.⠀
It seems to me that there are many potential underlying factors behind this thinking. An unrealistic perception of reality (ie. living in a fantasy world), wanting immediate results without having to put in the effort and perfectionism to name a few. But what about impulsiveness? Impulsive people tend to live life in the extremes without even realizing it. ⠀
From what I can see so far being highly impulsive leaves no room for, or need for the establishment of boundaries and finer limitations. Since it’s all about extremes - all or nothing - there’s really only two ways of doing things - on or off.
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